Honesty and trust are THE most important things in any relationship. If you can't trust your partner, if you cannot rely on your partner, then you will always be divided and apart from the one person who should be standing beside you against the world.
Stunned, I lay on the floor and gathered my faculties as his muffled queries drifted into my consciousness, and it hit me that there was a spark in our friendship, a glint which told my heart its not the case of just 'another' friendship maturing to heights.
My nonchalant response was an attempt on my part to convince myself, falsely though. I wasn't someone prone to strange and frequent catastrophes, but then I realized that hiding the truth only prolonged inevitable discovery, so I introduced him to my life of calamity. It's tempting to create a flawless façade when striving to capture the attention and affection of the opposite sex. Problems arise, however, when our veneer loses its shiny luster and the dull truth surfaces with a resounding pop into an idyllic dream world.
A common mistake of many couples is to become too close, too fast, because it's easier. Barbie and Ken meet and fall in love, only to discover later that the fabulous blister card descriptions left out a few important details, and I would have followed suit had I not fallen for a man with more wisdom than the average, run-of-the-mill Ken doll.
I took the plunge into feeling close to him over talks on the phone, sending me reeling into euphoric daydreams of romantic speeches about undeclared love, and most times I put on the brakes, sending us back to the "just friends" level.
Through my struggle earlier, I had learned to take my problems to God first and had learnt that She alone fulfills my needs and desires. But, the arrangement was noticing a pardigm shift. During this time of frustrating delay, our friendship grew, but most importantly, I drew close to him. I needed his strength for patience, contentment and wisdom to keep from employing manipulation tactics. I never would have chosen him to wait, because it would have been easier and more instantly gratifying to become a couple, but at what cost?
I have finally arrived at a point where I realized that despite the turmoil I experienced, I had gained far more by not being with him because it forced me to SEEK him.
Pause to ponder:
Love, when we meet it, comes in many guises. But nevertheless when we do meet love, we come to a crossroad. It does not have to be a real crossroad with a stop light , pedestrian lanes, and heavy traffic. It could be at an office, a park, a train station, a house. The landscape differs but the truths behind it remain the same. Love, though it may seem hard to think of at first, is a choice...to jump on that imaginary train, to enter the door, to hold a hand. We stand at our crossing carrying nothing more than our faith, our hopes, our trust, and that human capacity to selflessly give without counting the cost. It's not always rosy but we can choose to look beyond the cloudy skies, weather the storm. Love is just around the corner...if we're patient enough to wait and to search.
Stunned, I lay on the floor and gathered my faculties as his muffled queries drifted into my consciousness, and it hit me that there was a spark in our friendship, a glint which told my heart its not the case of just 'another' friendship maturing to heights.
My nonchalant response was an attempt on my part to convince myself, falsely though. I wasn't someone prone to strange and frequent catastrophes, but then I realized that hiding the truth only prolonged inevitable discovery, so I introduced him to my life of calamity. It's tempting to create a flawless façade when striving to capture the attention and affection of the opposite sex. Problems arise, however, when our veneer loses its shiny luster and the dull truth surfaces with a resounding pop into an idyllic dream world.
A common mistake of many couples is to become too close, too fast, because it's easier. Barbie and Ken meet and fall in love, only to discover later that the fabulous blister card descriptions left out a few important details, and I would have followed suit had I not fallen for a man with more wisdom than the average, run-of-the-mill Ken doll.
I took the plunge into feeling close to him over talks on the phone, sending me reeling into euphoric daydreams of romantic speeches about undeclared love, and most times I put on the brakes, sending us back to the "just friends" level.
Through my struggle earlier, I had learned to take my problems to God first and had learnt that She alone fulfills my needs and desires. But, the arrangement was noticing a pardigm shift. During this time of frustrating delay, our friendship grew, but most importantly, I drew close to him. I needed his strength for patience, contentment and wisdom to keep from employing manipulation tactics. I never would have chosen him to wait, because it would have been easier and more instantly gratifying to become a couple, but at what cost?
I have finally arrived at a point where I realized that despite the turmoil I experienced, I had gained far more by not being with him because it forced me to SEEK him.
Pause to ponder:
Love, when we meet it, comes in many guises. But nevertheless when we do meet love, we come to a crossroad. It does not have to be a real crossroad with a stop light , pedestrian lanes, and heavy traffic. It could be at an office, a park, a train station, a house. The landscape differs but the truths behind it remain the same. Love, though it may seem hard to think of at first, is a choice...to jump on that imaginary train, to enter the door, to hold a hand. We stand at our crossing carrying nothing more than our faith, our hopes, our trust, and that human capacity to selflessly give without counting the cost. It's not always rosy but we can choose to look beyond the cloudy skies, weather the storm. Love is just around the corner...if we're patient enough to wait and to search.
